Day Five

1 Nephi 1: 13-16

1 Nephi 1: 13

13 And he read, saying: Wo, wo, unto Jerusalem, for I have seen thine abominations! Yea, and many things did my father read concerning Jerusalem—that it should be destroyed, and the inhabitants thereof; many should perish by the sword, and many should be carried away captive into Babylon.

My message is taken from the Book of Mormon account of the vision God gave to the Prophet Lehi, who, with his family, lived in Jerusalem about 600 years before the birth of Christ. This prophet was warned concerning the destruction of Jerusalem by invading Babylonian armies (1 Ne. 1:13). God therefore commanded Lehi to take his family and a small select group and to depart from the city (1 Ne. 2:1-2). The Lord gave assurance that he would lead them to a promised land—the Americas as we know them today. These families belonged to the house of Israel, and Lehi was a descendant of that Joseph who was sold into Egypt.

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1 Nephi 1: 14

14 And it came to pass that when my father had read and seen many great and marvelous things, he did exclaim many things unto the Lord; such as: Great and marvelous are thy works, O Lord God Almighty! Thy throne is high in the heavens, and thy power, and goodness, and mercy are over all the inhabitants of the earth; and, because thou art merciful, thou wilt not suffer those who come unto thee that they shall perish!

Because of what we understand about the potentially eternal role of the family, we grieve at the sharply declining numbers of births and marriages in many Western countries whose historic cultures are Christian and Jewish. Responsible sources report the following:

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  The United States now has the lowest birthrate in its history,^{2 [See Joyce A. Martin and others, “Births: Final Data for 2011,” National Vital Statistics Reports, vol. 62, no. 1 (June 28, 2013), 4; Gloria Goodale, “Behind a Looming Baby Bust,” Christian Science Monitor Weekly, Feb. 4, 2013, 21, 23.]} and in many European Union nations and other developed countries, birthrates are below the level necessary to maintain their populations.^{3 [See Population Reference Bureau, “2012 World Population Data Sheet,” www.prb.org/Publications/Datasheets/2012/world-population-data-sheet/data-sheet.aspx.]} This threatens the survival of cultures and even of nations.
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  In America, the percentage of young adults ages 18 to 29 who are married fell from 59 percent in 1960 to 20 percent by 2010.^{4 [See D’Vera Cohn and others, “Barely Half of U.S. Adults Are Married—a Record Low,” Pew Research Center, Social and Demographic Trends, Dec. 14, 2011, available at www.pewsocialtrends.org/2011/12/14/barely-half-of-u-s-adults-are-married-a-record-low; “Rash Retreat from Marriage,” Christian Science Monitor, Jan. 2 and 9, 2012, 34.]} The median age for first marriage is now at its highest level in history: 26 for women and almost 29 for men.^{5 [U.S. Census Bureau, “Estimated Median Age at First Marriage, by Sex: 1890 to the Present,” available at www.census.gov/population/socdemo/hh-fam/ms2.xls.]}
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  In many countries and cultures (1) the traditional family of a married mother and father and children is coming to be the exception rather than the rule, (2) the pursuit of a career instead of marriage and the bearing of children is an increasing choice of many young women, and (3) the role and perceived necessity of fathers is diminishing.

In the midst of these concerning trends, we are also conscious that God’s plan is for all of His children and that God loves all of His children, everywhere.^{6 [See Dallin H. Oaks, “All Men Everywhere,” Ensign or Liahona, May 2006, 77–80.]} The first chapter of the Book of Mormon declares that God’s “power, and goodness, and mercy are over all the inhabitants of the earth” (1 Nephi 1:14). A later chapter declares that “he hath given [his salvation] free for all men” and that “all men are privileged the one like unto the other, and none are forbidden” (2 Nephi 26:27–28). Consequently, the scriptures teach that we are responsible to be compassionate and charitable (loving) toward all men (see 1 Thessalonians 3:12; 1 John 3:17; D&C 121:45).

Dallin H. Oaks' talk "No Other Gods", October 2013

1 Nephi 1: 15

15 And after this manner was the language of my father in the praising of his God; for his soul did rejoice, and his whole heart was filled, because of the things which he had seen, yea, which the Lord had shown unto him.

We learn a vital lesson from the example of Lehi in the Book of Mormon. Lehi responded in faith to prophetic instruction and warnings concerning the destruction of Jerusalem. He then prayed unto the Lord “with all his heart, in behalf of his people” (1 Nephi 1:5; emphasis added). In answer to this fervent prayer, Lehi was blessed with a glorious vision of God and His Son and of the impending destruction of Jerusalem (see 1 Nephi 1:6–9, 13, 18). Consequently, Lehi rejoiced, and his whole heart was filled because of the things which the Lord had shown him (see 1 Nephi 1:15). Please note that the vision came in response to a prayer for others and not as a result of a request for personal edification or guidance.

The Savior is the perfect example of praying for others with real intent. In His great Intercessory Prayer uttered on the night before His Crucifixion, Jesus prayed for His Apostles and all of the Saints.

“I pray for them: I pray not for the world, but for them which thou hast given me; for they are thine. …

“Neither pray I for these alone, but for them also which shall believe on me through their word; …

“… that the love wherewith thou hast loved me may be in them, and I in them” (John 17:9, 20, 26).

 

Elder David A. Bednar's talk "Pray Always", October 2008

1 Nephi 1: 16

16 And now I, Nephi, do not make a full account of the things which my father hath written, for he hath written many things which he saw in visions and in dreams; and he also hath written many things which he prophesied and spake unto his children, of which I shall not make a full account.

Teach by Example Elder S. Dilworth Young Of the First Council of the Seventy

S. Dilworth Young, Conference Report, October 1956, pp. 66-69

Yesterday there was a story read to you by Elder Clifford E. Young concerning Peter and John in the court of the temple healing a lame man who asked for alms. May I finish the story for you:

Now when they saw the boldness of Peter and John, and perceived that they were unlearned and ignorant men, they marveled; and they took knowledge of them, that they had been with Jesus.
And beholding the man which was healed standing with them, they could say nothing against it.
But when they had commanded them to go aside out of the council, they conferred among themselves,
Saying, What shall we do to these men? for that indeed a notable miracle hath been done by them is manifest to all them that dwell in Jerusalem; and we cannot deny it.
But that it spread no further among the people, let us straightly threaten them, that they speak henceforth to no man in this name.
And they called them, and commanded them not to speak at all nor teach in the name of Jesus.
But Peter and John answered and said unto them, Whether it be right in the sight of God to hearken unto you more than unto God, judge ye.
For we cannot but speak the things which we have seen and heard (Acts 4:13-20).

It is that last phrase about which I wish to speak. I should like to apply it to children. It is the burden of the Church, if any such thing can be a burden, to testify of things "seen and heard." How are we to teach children? They do not know all that an adult should know, but they should have no doubt as to where adults stand.

Every boy has a right to get the feeling that his father and his mother and his priesthood teacher, his Sunday School teacher and his scoutmaster, or anyone with whom he comes into association in the Church, knows of a surety of things "seen and heard." Every girl has a right to the same assurance that her parents and leaders know of things "seen and heard." Young folks themselves do not know yet, but confidence which they must develop comes because those closely in touch with them constantly bear witness to them in act, in deed, in word, that they know of things "seen and heard," the things seen and heard mentioned by Peter and John; the things mentioned by Nephi in the first chapter of the Book of Mormon in talking about his father Lehi, of the things he saw and heard (1 Ne. 1:6,14-16); the glories of the gospel and of Jesus Christ and of all the things "seen and heard" of him and of the things Joseph Smith "saw and heard."

Children are not well taught by just being told. When I was a young man, at one time I worked on a ranch in Idaho for a large cattle outfit. Fences were more of a curiosity than now. The first morning I went to work for them (and I was green at it) the boss sent the man who took care of the "remuda," the horses, out to get them before daylight. I was curious to know how those cowboys were going to rope and saddle their horses because I could see no corral. I assumed the "punchers" were going to have a rare time chasing them down. But as day broke, in they came, fifty or sixty head of horses at a dead run, and they came to a corral I had not noticed. Stakes had been driven in a large circle on the prairie, each stake protruding about eighteen inches above the ground. In the top of each stake was an eyelet, and threaded through the eyelet was a rope; wings went out from a twenty-foot entrance, perhaps one hundred feet on both sides. These horses came into the enclosure at a full gallop. The rope did not reach to their knees, and yet not a horse stepped over it. The punchers went into that little makeshift corral and roped their animals, saddled and bridled them, mounted and rode the buck out of them, and not a horse jumped over that rope out of the corral.

I asked the foreman why that was, and he said, "They know better." I did not learn until later what "better" meant, but the horses through fear first and habit second had long since learned where they could go and where they could not, and what they could do and what they should not do about stepping over that rope.

Well, children are not horses, or even like horses, and we cannot teach them by fear because that has a bad effect upon them, but teach them we can and teach them we must.

May I give you half a dozen homely and homey suggestions which to me seem simple, in relation to teaching children? Before I give them to you, may I say that teaching is an attitude. One does not learn by the words spoken, but rather by the attitude and spirit in what they are spoken. One does not always learn by action, but by the happiness with which the action is performed. And the lesson must be repeated over and over again all the time the child is growing up. Surely the Lord knew what he was doing when he said, in effect, "I am going to give you these children for twenty years or so, before they mature, and in that twenty years repeat with them what they must know well." Twenty years is a long time to a child. You have plenty of time to give them the habit of not stepping over the rope without having them fear it.

First, let us revive that happy custom of taking our meals together. Let us abolish the snack bars in our kitchens and establish a table around which all may Sit, and let Father have breakfast with his children as well as supper and let them sit there for a few moments after each meal and have conversation about things about which Father and Mother would like to talk. That custom is going out of our existence rapidly. It is a powerful thing; it will work wonders on children.

Second, when Father comes home at night, I suggest to him that he really resist this temptation and put the paper in a hidden place until the children have gone to bed. The newspaper has no place in the home where children are until the father has spent the evening with them. And it is like reading for fifteen minutes a day—if you spend fifteen minutes or twenty minutes with each child according to his years in doing things which are interesting to him and being a companion to him, you have come nearer to fulfilling your obligations as a father. If you leave it up to the mother, and get behind the newspaper, I think you have committed a sin, because the child is neglected, and you have not done your duty. So be firm; put the newspaper under the mat until after the children have gone to bed.

Third, be sure to spend time with each child, according to that child's age and interests. With a three-year-old girl, if you have to, get down and play paper dolls. With a seventeen-year-old son, who wants to go to the Brigham Young-University of Utah game, that is where you should be (unless you have to be in this priesthood meeting).

The point is, by the time the child is twenty, he should be so companionable with his father that he can talk to him about anything he wants to. The way to do it is to be companionable at every age of his life, from the beginning. That is why it is important to learn how to handle a baby, fathers, and do all the things that a baby requires.

Fourth, it is a poor parent who is not up or awake when the children come home from late parties or late dates. Then is the time to invite them to talk over what happened; to enjoy the things which were good and to be counseled on avoiding the things which were sorrowful; to counsel wisely about the things which they might have done which were wrong. This practice, kept up all the days of his childhood, will be a great deterrent for a child who is anxious to stay out longer than he should. My mother sat up for me, and I did not have the nerve ever to keep her waiting too long. I knew she was there. It helped me. It will help all the children.

Fifth, no parent in this Church is doing his duty unless he makes the Sabbath what it should be. It should be a happy day together, with the whole family participating. The first thing in the morning, Father and Johnny go to priesthood meeting, and Father should take Johnny there, not Johnny take Father. They should discuss things on the way there and coming home, too. Each one should feel that the other is equal to him, and the father should take particular care that Johnny understands his priesthood. The Aaronic Priesthood is vital. This is successful not so much because of what is said but because of the unsaid emotions and feelings engendered.

And then, parents encourage the children, and themselves as much as they can, to go to Sunday School and to the auxiliaries. But above all things, the whole family, if it is going to do what it ought to do, must go to Sacrament meeting. Father and Mother should lead the way, the children following close after and staying there until it is dismissed. If one child is too small, one can go out with him, walk him up and down until he gets the kinks out of his legs, or if a small child is crying, one may have to take it home; but the family understands that at the proper hour, all are in Sacrament meeting together.

Now those suggestions followed carefully with assiduousness will bring others. I have not talked about many things that should happen in the home, but they will happen: prayer, love, all of the things which go with it.

May I conclude by reminding you of the first thing that I said, things "seen and heard." How necessary it is for a parent to bear that witness! I have an aged great-grandmother, long since dead, who in her ninety-seventh year was approached by one who had lost faith, and thinking perhaps that the grandmother, too, had lost some, said to her, "You knew the Prophet. What did you think of him?" This aged woman had endured the vicissitudes of the seventies' trek from Kirtland to Missouri, had suffered through Haun's Mill with her infant child in her arms, had counted the long miles across the plains, and then had lived through years of poverty in Utah. She smiled as she looked at this person, and I think disappointed the person, too, because this is what she said: "We all knew that he was a Prophet."

So we all do know that he was a Prophet, but do our children know it? Do our children know that we know it? That, I think, is our greatest obligation as we face life with these little ones who are given to us to rear to adulthood.

My testimony is like my great-grandmother's: I know that Joseph Smith was a Prophet and that he saw and heard glorious things. I know that he held the keys, and I know that he passed them on to his successors, even down to President McKay and those who assist him. That is my witness to you, in the name of Christ. Amen.